So at a first glance I guess it doesn’t appear as if I’ll be winning any father of the year awards any time soon. That’s ok though because I never set out to. Does it matter that in my daughter’s first 4 years, I have only changed the bed sheets this one time? At first glance, maybe.
You see if fatherhood had taught me one thing and one thing only, it’s that no matter what you do with your day – nothing that you do in that day even comes close to what it’s like being a stay-at-home mum or dad. Nothing! Truly. Nothing!
My wife stays at home and cares for both our little ones. Not only does she rarely get time to eat, but seldom does she even get time to visit the bathroom without being watched by 4 eye balls ( on a good day it’s only 3 when our eldest chooses to be involved by staring through the key hole ).
I do the best I can to help out every night in the 2 hours I’m there in the evening.
I bath both kids and do bed time for the eldest and I’d do it for the youngest as well but it hasn’t worked out, mainly because I can’t breastfeed.
I also do all the evening diapers because I know that no matter how many I do, my wife will have done 46 more.
I then round it all off by cooking dinner for my wife. I’m not the worlds greatest cook but after 12 hours with 2 kids under 4 yrs old, cheese on toast seems like afternoon tea at the Ritz. I like to let her know her efforts are appreciated as often as I can and in any way that I can, even if I don’t say it.
So be sure to extra-celebrate your partner if they are the one who stays at home with your little ones (and even if they don’t of course – it’s nice to be celebrated) whether or not you change a random bed sheet or make the odd dinosaur birthday cake like Chris Hemsworth. It’s all a sign that you acknowledge what a hard job staying at home with little humans can be!
Like Aretha says R-E-S-P-E-C-T – it’s important to have it, show it and practice it!